Dicipline

I am sure most parents must beat their heads against brick walls on a daily basis out of pure frustration from their children's behaviour. Being a single mother, it often becomes quite frustrating as there is noone to seek advice on the spot for how a particular behaviour should be dealt with. Like most parents, our decisions are based on our own upbringing or from the multitude of books out there, overloading our minds and hearts with the 'right' solutions (if our brains can remember it in the first place).
I don't think there has been one parent that has not been a little overwhelmed or bewildered at times by the exhausting life of parenting. Looking on the bright side of life, I could not relate any experience to it likewise, as it is truly a wonderful time to be experienced if dealt with correctly. Let's face it, we all think we are right at the time, even if that means screaming and yelling that they have been grounded on top of being grounded for something we may look at the next day as not being worth all the hassle in the first place. At the time, though, whatever takes place, takes place. At the end of the day, as long as we hug, kiss and (for me) say a prayer, then usually the next day we can move on from that experience.

Today Jake and I came home from the gym Jye had a friend/s over, which at the moment he is grounded (valid excuse by the way as he threw a remote at Jakes head in an act of violence and violence is not tolerated in our house). I was cranky with him and stated why I was upset. I was also upset as Jye is always home at 3:15pm, his excuse was the bus broke down so he walked, obviously very slowly home. Well, I had been cleaning and washing all day, (time flies when you are having fun), and I still had to vacuum and mop the floors. Then I noticed lots of extra bits on the floor and the evidence of a spud gun with 2 spuds nearby. I was not very happy! There were bits of spud everywhere. I had a chat to Jye (slightly elevated voice) at his lack of respect from his mates when they were in his home. I asked him if he had told them to stop and he said that he nearly punched them in the face...typical response from a 13.5 year old. I told him that it was his house and under no terms were his friends to take over that privilege and do as they liked. He was responsible for making sure they bound by the rules while there was no parents present. I think he understood. I am going to tell these boys that they are not welcome back to the house for a while until they manage to respect other peoples property. I thought it was terrible and really hoped that my boys would not do something so disrespectful like that in someone else;'s home. I can only pray, and I am sure this is not the worst thing to happen. I don't want Jye to not stand up for himself, especially in his home. It is his domain and I want him to have that exclusive right when he has his mates over. I will ground his mates for one month from coming here. It needs to be acted when they come to collect him tomorrow morning. I have to get up earlier than usual, but if discipline is to have any standing in this community, then I shall do it!!!

Right, now to get Jye to bed.....

Nite